I went to see John Lydon do a Q&A for his book last night. The event was mediated by a woman and it appeared women had put it together too. They all did a terrible job.
The questions were pathetic and included copouts like, “Can you speak a little about that?” and “There’s some good writing” in this book. We couldn’t see the guy at all because he was sitting on a stage (I had to climb on to a speaker to get this pic) and why the hell were we way out in Greenpoint, Brooklyn?
However, John was fantastic and his brutal honesty made all the affirmative action mistakes melt away. One of the most interesting things I thought he said was being “absurdly arrogant can be an act of friendship.” That’s profound. Bursting into a room and yelling, “Hey fags” while biting into an apple doesn’t mean you hate everyone. It’s a way of saying, “Let’s do this.” It’s the way you’d talk if you were walking into your brother’s bedroom. You’d jump up on the bed and fart in his face. To be kind and respectful is often a totally patronizing pantomime. A true egalitarian tells you when you suck because he wants you to get better. John told the interviewer she was asking terrible questions and even helped her use the microphone correctly. He wasn’t doing that to humiliate her. He was acting the same way he would if it was his sister and they were alone.
Sometimes it’s the assholes who smell the sweetest.