A few weeks ago I met a boy at a party, and I was really drunk and told him that I liked him EVEN THOUGH I have a boyfriend.
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A few weeks ago I met a boy at a party, and I was really drunk and told him that I liked him EVEN THOUGH I have a boyfriend. I felt bad the next day and that particular non-boyfriend boy went back home to a city in which I do not live. Then, last weekend, I went to a crazy music festival with said boy and not my boyfriend and tried some drugs, and had a great time and ended up jerking off his roommate whom we shared a tent with.
I feel bad about cheating on my boyfriend, but I had been feeling uneasy about our relationship for a while now. He’s a really sweet dude and treats me well, but I don’t feel any passion between us, and quite frankly I’m bored. He’s a bit older and just wants to get high and drink beers and watch TV. I on the other hand, want to go make new friends and explore and make memories and become the person I’m going to be. I feel like we went to fast and skipped the so-called “honeymoon” phase. We’re basically just an old married couple. The sex isn’t even that good anymore.
My problem is, should I stick with him and see if passion develops after being together for four months, or should I get out now? I really do like him, but I shouldn’t have to put in so much work so early on. Or have I ruined everything by cheating on him? Thanks
-A BORED WHORE
Dear Bored Whore,
I’m mostly confused about the hand job. You jerked off the roommate of the boy you like? It sounds to me like it’s not about any one boy in particular but rather any guy who happens NOT to be your boyfriend. So yes, break up with him.
Why are people always trying to “make things work” when they’re unhappy and cheating? What’s the worst thing that can happen if you break up with him? He’s mad at you? So what? He’ll get over it. You’ll be sad? Oh well. Be sad. It will pass. Sounds like you’ll be happier without the guilt. Then you’ll be free to give handjobs to whomever and have the fun adventures that you seem to be seeking. Feeling like you’re in an “old married couple” relationship is only worth it if you’re actually an old married couple. It’s really not such a bad thing, but if it feels bad or wrong or boring right now, you have a choice and don’t forget that.
Part of living a wild and crazy life full of adventures is battling through the fear of doing stuff you don’t always want to do. It means being able to make choices that will sometimes have negative results. Making decisions and trusting our instincts are the hardest yet boldest actions we take. Sometimes the right decision feels like it’s wrong or bad because we’re hurting someone else. But we have to hurt other people sometimes in order to save ourselves. If you don’t save yourself first, you can’t save anyone at all. You can explore and make new memories anywhere, whether you’re at a crazy music festival or just at the diner. You’ll become the person you want to be not by cheating, lying or giving spontaneous handjobs, but rather being true to yourself and being honest with what you want. And then actually getting off your ass and doing it.
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