I’ve recently reentered the dating environment — or am trying to get my feet wet again, anyway. It has been about six months since mutually ending a two-and-a-half year relationship.
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I’ve recently reentered the dating environment — or am trying to get my feet wet again, anyway. It has been about six months since mutually ending a two-and-a-half year relationship. I’m 33. What I’m beginning to feel is that it is quite hard to seem attractive if one is not financially stable, especially if one is beyond one’s 20s. Two graduate degrees and an economic meltdown later, I’m not as financially solvent as I’d hoped to be by this point, though I work extremely hard and try to look on the bright side of things.
So yeah, I’m poor but not insufferable / lame about it. But the impression I get from friends and acquaintances (not to mention the media) is that financial struggles are a big turn off. Admittedly, I’d rather have that sorted out at this point than be on the road to ultimate relationship commitments, but I’d also like to share the good times with someone while sending out those job applications and keeping myself creatively occupied. What do you think?
-CLIFFORD IN AUSTIN
I once had a crush on a boy named Cliff Allen. He was in a hardcore band. Everyone in that band was cute. I loved all of them at one point, but they all took themselves way too seriously and none of ‘em really liked me anyway — especially not Cliff Allen. He had acne and I thought he was hot.
I don’t think girls are attracted to money as much as they are attracted to guys who work hard. Making tons of money should be a benefit of working hard, but it isn’t always like that (take firefighters for example, or construction workers). Needless to say, six months isn’t that long to be single and I assure you that if you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll find someone.
Dude, everyone is poor right now. Really. We all have financial struggles and will most likely continue to have them forever. It has nothing to do with love. You’ve seen the TV show Roseanne, right?
Girls don’t like guys who live with their parents. We don’t like guys who sleep on couches. We don’t like guys who can’t afford to go out to dinner or to the movies once in a while. If you got those things covered, you’re good to go. If you don’t, well … get it together! You’re 33! Girls are turned on by security. Security doesn’t mean having money, it means not being a fucking pussy and bitching about it all the time. As long as you’re not whining, you’ll be fine with the ladies.
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